How to Be Confident: The No.1 Sunday Times Bestseller

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Spend little time worrying about what others think of you. Don’t waste energy. What you see in others is their highlight reel. People aren’t paying attention to you as much as you think (In the gym people look at you as something to do between sets). No one cares about you like you do, they will not focus on you as much as you do. Utility of deprivation. Deprive yourself from something to keep the aggression or fire for the better version of the same thing (Porn and sex) Repetition is linked to success. Everything will feel clunky at the start (cognitive and mechanical) but then it will become automatic and fluid (think of using the car clutch at the beginning compared to now)

If there were ever a shortcut to learning how to master self-confidence, this would be it. It’s a confidence building tool, and a true call to action. And the best thing about it, is it’s free. I found James Smith on TikTok, where he eloquently (and confidently) explained the Swimmer's Body Illusion in a fitness context. I did not know what it was and knowing it made my life better. Huge power in vulnerability, builds trust and learning opportunities. Being yourself can only improve your confidence.Life’s too short to be anyone but yourself . Change your metric of success, change the goal posts. Make the success just being an attempt and don’t worry about if you actually succeed in it this time. Don’t know if you got a boyfriend but here’s my number text me if you fancy a drink. Simply saying this will be a success regardless if they actually call. Don’t overwhelm yourself with change- small changes- too big and you’ll get overwhelmed and give up.What you don’t measure you can’t improve. Train to seek progression in your life. It really doesn’t matter where you start but where you’re going, setting the next goal, gives you an incentive to continue. Confidence is a state of mind, a feeling, and a way of being that can be created at will. So, in a way, it’s a choice. If you’re not sure what to do with your life. Fix your inadequacies (self confidence/insecurities) as they are a guidance to improvement. Don’t beat yourself up about having insecurities, be grateful as they show you what to work on. Fixing physical flaw grows confident. People don’t have true confidence to speak out. Saying nothing is saying something. Takes courage but the byproduct is integrity . It costs you to NOT speak your truth. Diet isn’t just what you eat but what you expose yourself to daily. Who you follow what you watch and who you have around you. Information diet alters our perception.

Loss aversion- stops people wanting to spend inherited money. The idea of giving up something feels more painful than what you could potentially gain. Confidence is not comparative to success. Just have a good relationship with failure and don’t be scared of failing Failing is not the end point it is the start point often. At the time of failure it can feel awful but in the future you will be thankful it did not work out (think of bad relationships ending to give room for good ones in the future) I know what your thinking, what does positive thinking have to do with Confidence. But here me out. This book, with out a doubt belongs in this selection of the best books on confidence because of the wisdom provided chapter after chapter by the late great Norman Vincent Peale specifically for helping its readers lead a more positive and confident life. This book wasn’t profound but I did enjoy it. It covered quite a broad range of relevant areas to confidence and there were some golden nugget reminders which I will list but the main message of this book to me was that to be more confident you should know your values and live them. Set your own goals.You get to decide what success and winning is. You don’t have to impress anyone but yourself. Your dreams need to YOUR desires. Don’t just do what you think someone else thinks you should do! Eg lose a few pounds. You get to set the win level. Then you’ll be happy with your accomplishment and they won’t feel empty.

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From two times number one Sunday Times bestselling author, James Smith, comes HOW TO BE CONFIDENT – the third instalment in James’ no-nonsense guides to gaining the tools to empower your decision-making and change your life.

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when not confident to speak you can always start with ‘I could be wrong but’ … it disarms hostility and embraces ignorance. We can’t know everything. We’re terrified to be wrong . But we can accept responsibility and shows you’re open to other views. Don’t compare yourself to a stranger!!! But to yourself!Other wise you’ll never have the confidence to be yourself . The writing is informal and conversational ' you can imagine him speaking the whole thing aloud. I'm glad it wasn't overly academic, because I know he wanted it to be accessible to as many people as possible. I do think some sentences/paragraphs could have been rephrased or edited to be a little clearer.